Child behaviour or should I say child misbehavior? When you have to deal with temper tantrums, meltdowns, verbal and physical aggression, ADHD, ODD, you begin to wonder what on earth made you decide to become a parent and you start thinking that military schools are the answer! Here are 7 parenting tips to help you get though the jungle alive.
First Tip. Your child refuses to eat what you have prepared or wants something else. Avoid over-reacting or punishment. If you do that, the child will soon realise that this little tantrum gets results and is a further way he or she will have of controlling you and getting what he wants every time. The sooner you stop the tantrum the better because prolonging it will give it too much importance. In learning some behavior modification techniques, you can really avoid getting into power struggles over food.
Second Tip. Stick to regular mealtimes and routines. Tantrums are usually triggered by tiredness or hunger so regular events and schedules help avoid temper outbursts. Also avoid outings near mealtimes because that could trigger a tantrum or meltdown.
Third Tip. If your child is tending to obesity, try and vary this diet without telling him. Most kids are getting only one ‘five- a- day’ instead of the recommended five portions of fruit and veg. That means adding veggies to a hamburger which could be extra broccoli or carrots all chopped up. You can do the same with a pizza dish adding in luscious tomatoes and or peppers. They will not even notice but at least you are giving them healthier food without banning their favourite, pizzas, hamburgers or fries.
Fourth Tip. In dealing with older children or teenagers, build in a little ‘wind-down’ time for both children and yourself. This gives you and your teenager time to relax and get changed. That means, there is a regular time set aside for winding down as soon as you or your child comes back from work or school. It is an established routine and there are no exceptions.
Fifth Tip. If your child suffers from ADHD then he is more likely to be hyperactive as that is the most common type. All the experts agree that doing physical exercise or sports can be a great relief for all parties involved. It burns off some of the hyperactivity, increases the feel good factor and thus affects your mood positively.
Sixth Tip . if your child is misbehaving and being threatened with being suspended from school, forget about sending him to military schools especially if he is only six years old ! You need to establish the rules in your home and help the child to grow into a well balanced responsible adult.
Seventh Tip. Dealing with a bad tantrum or meltdown in the mall. If the child is very young, you can try distracting his attention away from what he wants by doing something funny or unusual. Luckily they have pretty short memories at this age. Children need to understand that tantrums are never going to pay off . You will need to develop other strategies to help the child to react to their frustrations or needs in a more positive way.
These are just a few of the techniques you need to be aware to cope with your child’s behavior in any situation.
By: Robert William Locke
Archive for September, 2009
Child Behavior – 7 Parenting Tips
September 26th, 2009Mortgage For Single Parents – Tips To Manage Finances
September 26th, 2009The struggle to manage the finance is a very important factor to consider as a single parent. Getting a proper job to support both the parent and the child can solve this. Finding a job in the immediate vicinity would help a lot as enough attention can be given to the child.
There may be many effects of single parenting on the parent. It is extremely tough and also a challenging task. Many of these parents suffer from the negative effects caused.
There are a lot of articles like this and many websites and also magazines. All you have to do is take some time and search. For articles that are more precise and that will provide you with exactly what you want you could look for them in the libraries. By reading these articles and books one can develop a good ideas how to handle a situation and these articles will behave as a guide and help you out to make your parenting life a little easier.
As the number of marriage break ups, death of a partner or even teenage pregnancies have increased these articles have become very popular and are being publicized widely. There have been many demands over the last few years on self-help tips on how to raise a child being a single parent.
These articles mainly focus on single moms and dads who have lost their spouse because of an unfortunate death and have to raise their child all by themselves. These articles would help them to handle grief and to continue their life without a partner.
In order to reduce all the bad effects the single parents must talk and express well with their children. they should communicate well and allow their children to express the problems that they are facing. Its upto the parents to let their children know that no matter what happens they will be always loved.
The most important thing is the parents should give their child a secure feling, a healthy environment and lots of love. This is important because it helps the children to be in a better psycological position. This will help them a lot and they will feel very secure. This will help in their growth both physically and psycologically.
Some children who are being raised in a bad environment or the children who are the product of teenage pregnancies are liable to be very sensitive than children raised in a normal environment, as they seem to be a usual topic at school or with their friends. This puts in a very uncomfortable position. These children must be helped to cope up and these articles will help a parent to do that.
Some articles are very confusing and are of not much help, such articles must be totally disregarded. As these are articles written by humans they are liable to errors and need not be perfect. But most of the authors use their experience as a single parent and write the articles. And sometimes they are not so informative.
Articles like those on single parenting are of great help for parents who are single to guide their child to a better future and to help them become better citizens.
The most important thing children need is security, loving and a very healthy environment for a proper physical as well as psychological growth. If these conditions are satisfied the children will grow up to be fine men even if a single parent has brought them up. Its always up to the parent how their children shape up to be in the future.
By: Abhishek Agarwal
Grand Parenting Tips
September 21st, 2009The desire to be a good grandparent is overwhelming, given the uniqueness of the relationship between grandchild and grandparent. If you wish to improve your skills as a grandparent, or merely garner ideas of how to best interact with your grandchild, here are a few hints and tips:
It is not always good to talk. Many advisors may suggest you try and talk to your grandchild, but unfortunately this creates a difficult atmosphere where a child often feels they are subject to some kind of interrogation. While the idea of sitting and talking deeply with your grandchild is understandably attractive, it has to happen naturally. Instead of expecting a rapport to already be in place, you can instead encourage the child to interact with you in other ways, such as playing together or making something. The conversation that happens during activity has two fold benefits; it is natural, and therefore the feeling of interrogation is minimized, and it also helps create a bond and level of communication that can be returned to.
Think like a child. Although it may be awhile since you have tried to do so, the best way to interact and develop a relationship with a child is to try and put yourself in their mindset. Try and ask yourself what children like, what they require, and how are they best stimulated. Your favorite hobby is probably not theirs, and the best way – particularly with young children – to bond is to see the world through their eyes. Encourage them to suggest activities, and provided these activities are safe, try and go along with them. This will help build a relationship between you and your grandchild, and they will associate you with fun, pleasant things.
Be aware of their likes and dislikes. Young children are particularly fussy when it comes to food, and while it is not advisable to roll out the ever popular junk food when your grandchildren come to stay, it is a good idea to remember their particular likes and dislikes. If they have a particular hatred of, for example tomatoes, write this down and don’t try and force them to eat tomatoes. Just remembering their little foibles will go a long way – but remember, children change their minds quickly, and what was flavor of the month the last time they visited may now be hated. Just roll with the punches and acknowledge this – admittedly frustrating – quick mind changing is just part of being a child.
Engage, do not preach. A sure fire way to make a child dislike your company is to preach to them – and not just in religious terms. Telling a child the benefits of healthy eating or the importance of exercise is not your job; it is their parents. Instead, make your role with the child fun and engaging, an authority figure who has the fun of not actually having to hand out discipline. Where necessary, chastise or inform them, but keep it short and succinct.
Find an activity just for the two of you. A huge benefit to being a grandparent is that you have more time than you did with your own children, and more free time than the child’s parents probably have. It is therefore a good idea to find an activity that you and your grandchild can do together, something that becomes ‘your’ thing. Ensure it is something the child wants to do and you can do happily, and thankfully you will be better prepared to make time for this activity than most. Indulge in this chosen activity often, and soon the relationship between you and your grandchild will blossom.
By: Veronica Scott
